Monday, June 9, 2014

Goddesses in the Dust: Brides, Mothers and Holy Chutzpah


The Saturday before last, my daughter got married. For the past 12 months, she's balanced her first year of law school with planning this pivotal event. As I watch her launch into her new life, I think back to what it means to be a mother, and know that my mother would have loved to join in this celebration.

She stood by my side at my wedding 

as I stood by my daughter's...

...since the beginning.

As the music cued up to walk her down the aisle, I didn't know if I could hold back the tears. I knew such tears would be shed for how fast childhood goes by, for my parents and mother in law not present for an event they would have been overjoyed to attend.

But I knew that I would feel pride and a deep, profound happiness. Weddings are not only a celebration of the couple, they are a celebration of an entire family and friends coming together. They are a celebration of life itself. So right before we walked our girl down the aisle, my husband and I sniffling, she suddenly said to both of us, "Look, look!!!" With a huge smile on her face, she did an impromptu raise the roof motion with her arms, along with a shimmy dance move, her beautiful dress swaying with the motion. Through the tears, I laughed, my husband laughed, and we marched her through that door.

And for the rest of the night we alternated, laughing, shedding a few more tears, and dancing till we dropped....remembering a night long ago when we were hoisted in the air for our own chair dance

and reliving that moment in the eyes of our children


What holy chutzpah we humans have, indeed......

29 comments:

  1. My eyes are blurred with tears, Sis.

    I send you and Elena and Alex my sincerest congratulations and hope and good blessing for a beautiful now. (Okay, had to stop to wipe the tears!) I love, especially, that beautiful image of you and your mother. So happy you included that in this lovely post.

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    1. Thank you sis♡ So much emotion came up for me around this - having never done it before I wouldn't have known what to expect - but all of it glorious. Even missing my parents and mother in law, who would have loved to see this day, the love in the room exceeded the space and encompassed them as well, of that I am sure. Grateful for the day, the memories and feeling so blessed.

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  2. All the photos are so beautiful. You can see the joy. What dreams are made of.

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    1. Thanks Donna - the joy was palpable and we danced til the cows came home.....

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    2. Donna - I forget to mention - but it was thanks to your post of Pharrell Williams' video "Happy" that I first fell in love with the song. We had the band play it at the reception and passed out Mountie hats to folks to wear during the song and it was a huge hit!

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  3. Such beautiful occasion! Congratulations to the happy couple, and to the families tying the bond to love and support the new life force among them.
    My children's extended families have been mine too; through all aspects of life, they have been strong and steady. Lucky us.

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    1. Dear Rosaria, lucky us indeed. I love what you say about supporting the new life force between families - weddings do bind in many ways, of that I am now aware......xoxo

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  4. Congratulations to he happy couple and thank you for sharing all the lovely photos. Weddings are such glorious occasions. Your daughter looked radiant and the photos of you and your mother is precious.

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  5. happy for you! We've a wedding coming in August ourselves, ain't life grand?

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    1. Congrats to you - grand indeed!

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  6. Yay!! Massive Congrats and Blessings to you and your family...so wonderful and beautiful...thanks for sharing your special moments and inspiring love!
    Victoria

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    1. Thank you Victoria - we are feeling very blessed♡

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  7. amanda, what deep emotion. i think i understand how the day must have been for you. i would guess you are comforted by the fact that your daughter has married a good man. i know that has meant a lot to me as i've watched my jessica begin and build her own family. i still cry sometimes. i think love is like that.

    my most sincere congratulations. you are both beautiful. and oh that photo of you and your mother. she looks so proud and solid.

    love always
    kj

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    1. He is a good man, KJ and we feel so fortunate that Elena is so happy. Thanks for your sweet words - and yes, my mother was very solid and proud - a fitting description :))

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  8. What a special, wonderful day, and what beautiful women you all are!

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  9. Wonderful commentary and a beautiful bride. I love the pic of you and your Mom, too.

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    1. Thanks so much, Barb, for your comments and for visiting!

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  10. oh my goodness amanda. oh. my. goodness.

    so much beauty and love and pride and everything good in this post. congratulations to your gorgeous girl and her new husband and to you and yours. isn't life grand? how lovely.

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    1. Hi there Lori!!! LIfe is grand - don't you know it, girl!?!!!!

      xxx

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  11. oh I can only echo what everyone else has said - the pictures and the sentiments are amazing and awesome. The love you all have shines so brightly - congratulations to you all.

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    1. Thank you dear Mim - it was a day we will never forget...the memories are still fresh almost two weeks hence...

      xoxo

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  12. Big Wonderful Congratulations to your family! So many wonderful photos,I can feel the love.xoxo

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    1. Thank you Cat!! It was a day filled with love and we are still floating on cloud 9 :))

      xoxo

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  13. Your daughter is a beautiful bride, you must be so proud of the woman she's become. And the photo of you and your mother is beyond precious x

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    1. Thank you Sara ~ I'm so happy I unearthed that photo of my mom and me - it wasn't in the original wedding album, but buried under a pile of other photos...using my archaeological skills to excavate it!

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  14. how strange to so clearly see your eyes and your smile in another woman's life. your spirit too, i imagine.

    congratulations to you all, amanda. new life for everyone each new day.

    xo
    erin

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    1. I'm happy you see that Erin ~ as you know we parents sometimes have trouble seeing those traits that others see so easily xoxo

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